Pretending

We all at some point of time have done this, where we pertented/faked to be someone who we are not, just to get other people’s attention or by overthinking of how other people will pecieve us, how they will juduge us,

someone can say that there is nothing wrong or bad in this, someone say that it is good thing if done with awarness and care, like most people say fake it till you make it, but what i have seen from other’s experiances and mine also, fake it till you make it may seem working in short term, or it may help you in getting foot in the door, but in the long term without real substance you will die and feel bad about the past decisiono of faking it,

I recently watched this film Kho Gaye Hum Kahan, like it’s shown, for short term gain we pretend something which we are not, becuase we think how other person percieve it, whenever i think about this, i always think that if i am thinking of what other people is thinking and, other person is thinking of what i am thinking, and that whole tree goes on and on, just like chess, but in general, moost of my friends or some people online do things that don’t reflect them, because they want to get noticed by someone, or they want to be part of some group, which needs to be cool in someway,

and there are lots of reasons for one to do this, someone want to get more online friends, someone want to grow their network, someone want to get attention, but i see this as loop holes, which are very attractive to fall for, by pretending or faking it you are not someone you will get to some point, but after point you will regret or want to undo it, but it is too late to do that, now you build upon it, and things start to fail like janga,

i think we should not let go the depth when we can see the benifits of the breadth, both are important, but at anytime, if there is no depth in anything, breadth is of no use, as from one of the disussion, let’s say i want to get famous, or want to become thought leader in some space which i don’t know a thing abuot, i can fake it and get to point where people start to belive in whatever i say, but it is just one step away from getting destoryed, it’s the depth of connection when we need, what that connection is capable and what he does,

chasing wrong thing is not the problem, but often we know that we are chasing something wrong and still doing it is biggest blunder who can fall for

i am just saying that instead of investing too much time in maintaing or faking something, invest that much time in building real substance,

if you are trying to be smoething which you are not, the other people will notice it and it automatiicaly gets reflected in your behaviour of what you really are, and more things you fake you have to remember about them, which is in itself is burden