You want to do everything?
You wake up and see someone playing guitar. Now you want to play guitar.
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You see someone with great physique. Now you want that body. Hardware,Software, AI, Design, Hacking, Painting… the list never ends and every new thing feels urgent.
Her’s the pattern: You spend hours researching the hobby/skill. Watching videos, reading threads, gathering information as much as you can. It feels productive. It isn’t. The research is simulation of commitment, your brain gets the illusion of progress without the discomfort of actual practice.
And even if you start, you quit after one or two attempts. Not because you didn’t want it, but because something new arrived before the old thing got hard enough to get good.
People say the silver bullet is just being high agency at everything. well it isn’t. People treat agency as the solution to everything, but agency without commitment is just faster context-switching. You become extremely efficient at starting things. That’s not a virtue, that’s a more energetic version of the same problem.
What actually works is staying with something long enough to be genuinely bored by it. That dead zone between beginner excitement and real skill, where nothing feels fun and results aren’t comming yet, is where most people quit. It’s also where everything important happens. Sitting in that discomfort is how you find out what you actually like versus what just looked good from the outside. People call this type 2 fun. The enjoyment that only arrives after the struggle.
Palmer Luckey said it better than I can:
“At some point, in business and in life and in romance, you have to commit to a path,” said the 31-year-old Luckey. “A lot of my peers in the tech industry do not share this philosophy … They’re always pursuing everything with optionality. ’Oh, I need to be able to raise money from anybody. I need to be able to sell my business in any way. I need to have liquidity in any way. I need to make sure that I’m not closing myself off to future romantic partners. I need to make sure I’ve got my options open. I need to make sure that I’m not going to buy a house and settle down in one place and lock myself down. Oh, having children. I don’t know. Maybe I’m not ready to commit to that path.’”
“In keeping their options open, they ensure that they’re going to jump from option to option. If you don’t commit to a path, you’re going to fail at it … You have to commit to it to make it work, and I think marriage is the same way. You just have to commit to it. You have to say, ’This is the path I’m on. For better or for worse, I’m going to double down on it.’”
The trap isn’t curiosity. Curiosity is good. The trap is using optionality as a permanent address. Staying open to everything because closing off feels like loss. It doesn’t feel like a trap. It feels like freedom. But you’re not free, you’re just permanently in preview mode. Never in the actual movie.
Commitment isn’t about certainty. You rarely know before you commit. Commitment is the mechanism by which you find out. You don’t commit because you’re sure, you commit to become sure.
Take whatever time you need to find the thing. But at some point, pick it and stay.